Intimacy – ‘where are you?’

‘Where are you (Adam)?’

This was God’s question to Adam when walking in the garden, once he and Eve had given in to temptation, sinned and covered up their nakedness (Genesis 3:9) We have to ask the questions: ‘Did God not know where Adam was?’ or, ‘Was God actually asking Adam to find out where ‘he was’? – physically, emotionally, and possibly, spiritually.  I would dare to choose the latter as an answer.  This appears to be the first time that Adam has been lost, and God the Father, is wanting Adam to take stock of his being, emotions, thoughts, feelings and spirit, in the light of the sad event with the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

The fact is that we live in a broken world, but just as Adam needed to be asked where he was, we all live an existence that is often ‘self-unaware’, in which we hide our real self in fear of others finding out who we ‘really are’.  God yearns for us, like he did Adam, to be aware of who we really are, so that others can understand us.  This positions us to be loved and to love.  God yearns to be intimate with us all.

Intimacy is defined as making known the innermost parts of the self (Talmadge 1986). Intimacy from Latin intimate means: to put, bring, drive, announce, make known; and intimus: the superlative of intus, which means: within. So, it is:  to bring, announce, drive home, make known that which is within.

To do this, we need to ask the question, ‘Where are you?’, maybe daily, hourly, or monthly, because to be known means that we have to know, and this is a key to becoming intimate with those we love.  This will result in vulnerability with strength, as we identify who we are and daringly and specifically share this with someone we love.

So, ‘where are you’ in your physical being, your emotions, mind, will and spirit?  Stop right now and be honest with yourself and let it sink in for a while.  Who can you choose to share this with responsibly (not asking them to take responsibility for whatever it is), so that they can know you and your relationship can go to another level.  In this moment, we allow our neocortex (rational mind) to develop, and we start to reflect our superiority as the human race.  It’s good to ‘know where we are’.  We might feel uncomfortable sometimes, but its worth it as we become solid and wholesome.

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